Tuesday Open Thread ~ The Sweet Spot


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It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it. - Dale Carnegie
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Good Morning!

Welcome to Tuesday's Open Thread! Today's topic comes from two concepts we don't usually pair together. The discipline of Science and the tradition of Buddhism. How they complement each other in this scientific breakthrough might surprise you.

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The Game of Life

The first time I heard someone use the phrase "hitting the sweet spot" they were talking about a tennis racquet. For those of you who play sports, you may have experienced hitting the sweet spot. In this case though, I'm going borrow that term and apply it to something we all play. As in Life. In that context, I like to think of the sweet spot as a place where your mind gravitates towards possibilities, positive outcomes, curiosity, and a sense of wonder. A place where you feel in complete sync with the rhythms of your environment and where you are deeply connected with that authentic part of yourself. Interestingly enough, training is also required in achieving that kind of well being, or maximum response for the effort we put into our lives.

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Mind over Mood

About a week ago, I visited one of the botanical gardens here in Southern California with a friend of mine. Entering the park, she immediately suggested we take a ride on "The Enchanted Railroad". Essentially a children’s attraction, the miniature train in question weaves its way through the park with all the flashing lights, sounds, and train crossings that a real train would if there was a real train running through Descanso Gardens. Feeling a bit ridiculous at first as I maneuvered my way onto a children’s ride, as soon as I sat down and heard everyone yell "All Aboard!", I thought, what the heck, who cares if we look silly, this is kinda fun. As the “Enchanted Railroad” chugged past the fragrant magnolia trees and the bursts of color coming from blossoming cherry trees, my friend led the kids in songs, high-fived on-lookers waiting at the train crossings, and made an ordinary day into a very special experience for everyone on the train. At the end of the ride she suggested that the next time we ride the rails we should wear a pair of striped overalls and a conductors cap because, why not?

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Outings with my friend are like that. She has a certain joie de vivre that makes you feel like you’re taking part in of one of those “this is your best life” wine commercials. Meeting her, you might be surprised to learn she also battles with depression. When I asked her once what she does to get through it, she responded by telling me that her training in “mindfulness” helped her stay in the present moment and shift the focus away from the thoughts that pull her down the rabbit hole.

As someone who was diagnosed with bi-polar II syndrome several years ago and quite familiar with going down that rabbit hole, this interested me. I had done my own research on cognitive-behavior techniques, and combined with the Buddhist practice of chanting, I have used both disciplines to great effect. Just as my friend changed the focus of her thinking by remaining in the present moment, I changed the focus by re-framing the inner dialogue going on inside my head. After a sustained period of time where I practiced cognitive re-training along with my daily practice of "mindfulness" through my chanting, not only was I able to keep my mood swings in check, the severity of the symptoms actually decreased and I was finally able to get off the medication my doctor had prescribed for me.

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The implications of what I was able to achieve by combining cognitive therapy techniques with Buddhist practices cannot be overstated. Ground breaking research in neuroplasicity has shown that cognitive-behavior therapy has the power to systematically change faulty brain chemistry. As with my own experience, the findings from those pioneering experiments in neuroplasicity demonstrate that the brain can indeed adapt, heal, and rewire itself to overcome and break the cycles of anxiety and depression.

So, what does this mean for all of us? Potentially, quite a bit.

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""The actions we take can literally expand or contract different regions of the brain, pour more juice into quiet circuits and damp down activity in buzzing ones. The brain devotes more cortical real estate to functions that its owner uses more frequently and shrinks the space devoted to activities rarely performed. That's why the brains of violinists devote more space to the region that controls the digits of the fingering hand".

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The Orchestra and The Conductor

Imagine your brain as an orchestra. The cellos in your orchestra have been dominating the rest of the instruments. While the cellos grow in strength, the rest of the orchestra's musical instruments fall silent. In this example, the cellos represent a culmination of your negative thoughts, your anxiety, your fears, your depression.

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Now imagine the conductor of the orchestra. The conductor can tell the cellos to be quiet so we can hear another section of the orchestra play. Let's imagine we want to hear the brass section play. The more we hear the brass section play, the larger the section becomes. In this example, the brass instruments represent a culmination of your optimistic thoughts, your joy, your curiosity, your sense of wonder.

Here's the thing, YOU are the conductor.

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“Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living
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The Buddhist and The Scientist

Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche has been meditating most of his life. At the tender age of thirteen he entered a highly selective Tibetan meditation program at the Sherab Ling monastery in India under the guidance of the Buddhist masters. There he practiced an advanced meditation program where his progress over the years was so impressive, he was asked to return as a teacher.

Rinpoche's devotion to his studies also helped him deal with a mental disorder that had plagued him since childhood. What would've been diagnosed by western medicine as panic disorder, for Rinpoche the fear he lived with had no name. Through sheer perseverance and the efficacy of meditation, he was finally able to overcome and master his affliction. That he was able to do this without the aid of conventional pharmaceuticals or therapeutic assistance is a testiment to his strength of character.

For Richard Davidson, P.h.D., Rinpoche's story was compelling enough for Davidson to get on a plane and meet with him in France during one of Rinpoche's teaching tours. A world-renowned neuroscientist and the Director of the Waisman Laboratory for Brain Imaging and Behavior at the University of Wisconsin, Davidson was very interested in the effects of meditation on neural activity. After their initial meeting, the scientist invited the monk to Wisconsin to give a lecture at the University. The two men formed a working partnership together shortly afterwards and in 2002 Rinpoche agreed to participate in Davidson's research.

"This research has yielded stunning results, which if replicated will alter forever certain basic scientific assumptions -- for example, that systematic training in meditation, when sustained steadily over years, can enhance the human capacity for positive changes in brain activity to an extent undreamed of in modern cognitive neuroscience.

Perhaps the most staggering result to date came in a study of a handful of meditation adepts that included Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche. During a meditation on compassion, neural activity in a key center of the brain's systems for happiness jumped by 700 to 800 percent. For ordinary subjects in the study, volunteers who had just begun to meditate, that same area increased its activity by a mere 10 to 15 percent. These meditation experts had put in levels of practice typical of Olympic athletes - between ten thousand and fifty-five thousand hours over the course of a lifetime honing their meditative skills during years of retreat."

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Rinpoche's story is a powerful illustration of how the Buddhist and Scientific communities came together to explore the human mind and our capacity to stretch the boundaries of our perceived limitations . While most of us will never achieve the Olympic athlete status in meditation, this research clearly indicates that with a steady practice of meditation, at any level, you can increase the quality of your life.

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The Sweet Spot

The Dalai Lama once remarked that one of the mind's most marvelous qualities is that it can be transformed. As a practicing Buddhist, I have always believed in the transformative nature of human beings. The challenge for me when I first began practicing was letting go of the regrets I'd spent a life time collecting. The battle with myself came to a head during a spiritual retreat I took with a friend of mine in upstate New York. It was a few years after my Mother passed away and I had been weighed down with regrets that I had not been kinder towards my Mother during the years of her self inflicted deterioration.

The exercise for the day was to write down our regrets, go out on a hike, find a quiet spot and meditate about letting them go. It was a bright spring day and the hiking trails were bursting with color. Wild flowers covered the mountains and the sun radiated through the trees leaving patterns on the trails. I found a spot in the middle of a large meadow that no one had discovered and sat down in the tall grass. Small yellow daisies danced around me in the cool breezes as I took the piece of paper with my handwritten regrets out of my pocket and read it. Tears welled up in my eyes. I laid down and took a deep breath. I might as well have weighed a thousand pounds my regrets felt so heavy. So I imagined myself as something lighter. A flower for example. Beginning with my toes as they began to grow into roots and find their way into the soft cool earth. Petals began sprouting around my face and my body grew tall and green. I looked up at the sun and imagined the sun looking down at me. A small figure lying in the grass. I imagined that from the perspective of an infinite universe, I really was no different than the wildflowers that surrounded me. Yet, if I wasn't any different from a wildflower then how could I be anything but a part of everything else? And with that realization, I opened up my hand and let the wind carry my regrets away...

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This is gonna be the Best Day of my Life, oh, oh, oh, oh...
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Further Study and Reading:

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Well, that about wraps things up for this week's edition. Kiss 2
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Anja Geitz's picture

@studentofearth

This is a wonderful resource. It's always encouraging to hear the different ways people heal themselves. I will pass this along to my Sister who is looking for ways to relieve stress and increase physical health. What a great community this is with such interesting people!

Be well.

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this is one of the best essays that I've had the privilege of reading here.

Triple kudos! Good

I got a text message a few minutes ago from Kaity's vet's office that he'll be calling me about noon. So, gotta run and make a couple of notes, so that I'll be organized enough to ask him pertinent questions (regarding some test results). But, hope to stop back by later.

I may need to pick your brain about your practice of Buddhism. I considered taking up meditation in a serious way (some time ago), but, didn't follow through. After reading about your personal experience, thinking that I should reconsider.

For now, will leave you Guys with a fav image that I sometimes use in my Tweets, because it symbolizes calm and peace (to me).

Namaste . . .

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Mollie

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@Unabashed Liberal

I've got my fingers crossed for Kaity. I hope you have a good relationship with your vet, it makes things less difficult when you're taking care of a sick animal.

I'm so pleased you've enjoyed today's topic and that you've found it helpful. I look forward to speaking with you further about "mindfulness" and my Buddhist practice.

Take care Mollie and keep us updated about young Kaity.

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@Anja Geitz

best wishes, Zoebear. With the new medical info, they're in the process of making a referral to specialists, hopefully, right after the Easter holiday.

Gonna reread your essay, as well as all the excellent and informative comments in this thread. Happy to see others, like EL, have studied and practiced meditation--will try to draw on their experiences, too.

Hoped that I could post a link to Bernie's MFA Bill, but, even though he took to the floor this morning to introduce it; but, so far, can't find anything (online) but the 2017 Bill. Maybe next week.

Have a good one!

I think dogs are the most amazing creatures; they give unconditional love. For me they are the role model for being alive.
~~Gilda Radner, Comedienne

Mollie

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call the eastern practices has continued to evolve over time and will surely evolve further, but "science" has long recognized that some of these activities, and similar ones evolved in the western tradition, can permanently alter cognition, it is the how and the brain/mind interface that has been and continues to be the "mystery".

I began looking into this as a teen in the late fifties and early sixties thanks to many influences, one of which was my brother, four years my elder, whose many interests included the beats, beat literature and beat poetry. This led to my early reading of same with the corresponding interest in zen, which was a factor in much of that milieu. I'd also been curious about the plethora of religions in face of the fact that a damn good case could be made (and had been often made) for atheism. Another factor was the fact that I grew up in San Diego, and Yogananda's establishment a few miles up the road sort of infused an awareness into the local culture resulting in my early reading of "Autobiography of a Yogi".

Zo, assorted research and reading, including D.T. Suzuki's works and Alan Watt's "The Way of Zen" I concluded that getting "the Buddha Mind" needn't really involve studying Buddhism, because Buddha himself clearly couldn't have. Zen seemed to approach his own method with perhaps the practice of za-zen replacing his time as a hindu/yogi ascetic. Zen, of course, was a fusion of Buddhism and Taoism, so the clear path would be some sort of yoga + Taoism with a side of traditional Buddhism.

As a result, I began practicing a form of pranayama, which is a type of yoga breathing that lies at the core of today's "mindfulness meditation" plus many other meditative practices and regimens. I did so with more of a focus on the "wu wei" or no-mind/empty mind orientation inherent in Taoism and zen, though I did also at times get into a bit of awareness of my body, mind, and thoughts as of the instantaneous "here-now". I got a lot of mileage out of that, and still do, not as often as I should, to relax, unwind, de-stress, or simply go "there".

I highly recommend that anybody utilizing meditative practices take a wander through the "teachings" of and/or writings on zen and on Taoism. They provide both food for thought, western style, as well as themes and/or foci for meditation. The tao te ching, especially is worth a read, as well as all of the zen koans one can find. Truth be told, the first koan probably wasn't, but was Buddha's "flower sermon", except that it probably never happened, unless, of course, it did. It doesn't really matter.

Have a great day, every day.

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@enhydra lutris

For many years, I appreciate your insight. While there are many overlapping traditions and principals between the various eastern disciplines, what attracted me in the beginning to Buddism was primarily the teachings outlined in the Lotus Sutra.

The first was the notion that everyone had the ability to achieve enlightenment. In the first century BCE, that was an extraordinarily revolutionary idea. Not only were the poor and uneducated told they possessed the ability for enlightenment, but this extended to women as well.

The other teaching that resonated with me, and still does today, is the Law of Cause and Effect. Just as a Lotus flower blooms and seeds, our actions have consequences. It has been a guiding principle for me in my life since I've been practicing and has evolved over the years. With each year, that part of my practice stretches wider and deeper into my actual life. It's been an interesting evolution for me as a person who once told a fellow practioner that I had "bigger fish to fry" when she spoke about practicing for oneself and for others. Compassion has not only made me a kinder person, it has opened up doors in the real world as well as within.

Thank you so much for sharing your background. I enjoyed hearing about your practice and I'm thankful for the additional resources

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@Anja Geitz
necessary, that was after I had already studied plenty of it, and I did, in fact study more ("+ a side of Buddhism"). This, of course, was momentous, as you note:

The first was the notion that everyone had the ability to achieve enlightenment. In the first century BCE, that was an extraordinarily revolutionary idea.

The law of cause and effect, in various forms, has been a guiding principle for me for most of my life, not only as to our actions, but also as to our inaction. Everything reverberates everywhere.

I agree wholeheartedly with the importance of compassion and feel a special fondness (not the right word) for Avalokitasvara/Kwan Yin/Kwannon.

Thanks again for the great OT.

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Outings with my friend are like that. She has a certain joie de vivre that makes you feel like joining in. Meeting her, you might be surprised to learn she also battles with depression. When I asked her once what she does to get through it, she responded by telling me that for her, staying in the present moment helps her to shift the focus away from the thoughts that trigger the depression.

An old rock-and-roll tune from the 1970s brings that into focus for me.....

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I used to be lonely 'til I learned about livin' alone
I found other things to keep my mind on
And I'm gettin to know myself a little bit better
Whoa, I keep pushin' on
I keep pushin' on, yeah

Goin' through all the changes, I made so many mistakes
Oh yes I did
Tryin' to leave behind the heartaches
And sometimes I think I was a little bit crazy, oh yeah
Whoa, I keep pushin' on

(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
Keep pushin' on
(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
You know you have gotcha to be so strong
(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
Well even if you think your strength is gone
(Keep pushin', keep pushin')
Keep pushin' on

Well it's comin' together, I finally feel like a man, oh yes I do
I never thought that I'd be where I am, oh
Every day I wake a little bit higher
Whoa, I keep pushin' on, oh yeah

(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
Keep pushin' on
(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
You know you have gotcha to be so strong
(Keep pushin', keep pushin', keep pushin')
Well even if you think your strength is gone
(Keep pushin', keep pushin')
Keep pushin' on

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"All power corrupts absolutely!" -- thanatokephaloides

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@thanatokephaloides

Thanks for the tunes, Than!

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@Anja Geitz

Boy, does REO Speedwagon bring back memories

Thanks for the tunes, Than!

Any time, zoe!

Air kiss Give rose

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"All power corrupts absolutely!" -- thanatokephaloides

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I think it is timely that you have started writing these OTs, Zoebear. After reading all of the comments thus far, it is clear that many here are moving the same direction. And the personal stories are crucial too. However, it is frightening for many of us to share them. When we do, there are always others who connect to them.

Thanks again.

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@mhagle

It's a special gift when someone can share their experience and help others . Because as you said, inevitably there's is someone out there who will be helped by this. We are all living our lives as best we can and we all have struggle most people do not know about. Your encouragement fills my heart with such gratitude.

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@Anja Geitz

That invites us to share our personal stories. IDK

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Marilyn

"Make dirt, not war." eyo

@mhagle
trying to open the twos day OT to more, maybe a threes day or fours day It takes some of the pressure off having to essay every week, especially when inspiration only hits once a month or so. give it a thought.

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@QMS

My main personal focuses are present moment - that zoebear is covering - moving teenagers into their future - and gardening for deep adaptation.

Haven't brought this up yet, but I will be taking nowthepathforward.us to a local level. I am going to use it for a local food gardening club. And maybe everyone interested will develop something local as well.

Yes?

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World Championship Performance Round

Me and my dog Epic winning our first freestyle world championship after 22 years of playing (me, not the dog Smile ):
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Sweet Spot

Ironically enough, the center of the field where the logo is, in this organization is called "the Sweet Spot" and it is an important feature of all UpDog games.

The middle zone of the field here, as well as the logo within it are called the Sweet Spot. I painted the Sweet Spot on the main field for this event:

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That "Players Choice" award is an important one to me. Winning the contest and getting that to boot is saying something.

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@k9disc Epic look like he was having fun. Brings back memories of my first Frisbee playing Aussie. She taught me a lot about dogs. They can be intense.

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We have a few Aussies here. Eppie is a Baussie - Border Collie/Aussie cross. We used to have six, but they all live such short lives... special dogs too.

Thanks for the congrats and sharing your discdog experience.
@studentofearth

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@k9disc @k9disc

What a great feeling it must've been to accomplish a goal after working towards it for so long! Well done! I'm hoping there was some celebrating afterwards? Maybe you and your teammate went out for a beer? Biggrin

edit: typo

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There really is nothing like the present moment when you’re doing what you love.

The plasticity of the brain is a thing of beauty. Imagine everyone learning skills from early on, that guide their brain in composing a harmonious symphony from all the varied instruments and input.

I am interested in hearing new guided meditations and imagery. Thank you for the Bellruth Naperstak link .

Some sweet music …

[video:https://youtu.be/0egByJ_CiMQ]

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@janis b

Here's a sample ...

https://www.soundstrue.com/store/mother-night-703.html

I could listen to her forever ...

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@janis b

And right up my alley. I love myths and I love stories! Perfect!

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@Anja Geitz

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@janis b

There really is nothing like the present moment when you’re doing what you love.

The beautiful thing about that is the feeling of joy we derive is as unique as we are. Which is why it's so important to keep on exploring the world around us whatever our age. I recently joined an online group, which depending on your interests, hosts local in-person events. I also dug up my old digital camera and would love to just go out in nature and take photos. Onward!

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There is always Music amongst the trees in the Garden, but our hearts must be very quiet to hear it. ~ Minnie Aumonier

...comments. Easily one of the most educational/self-enlightening pieces I've read here! By far! My dear, you ARE truly brilliant! And, obviously, an educator and a genius when it comes to written communications. Wonderful. Thank you so much for taking the time to post this!

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@bobswern

You keep talking like that and I'm going to need to make the door frames bigger in my house. Biggrin

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@Anja Geitz

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Wow! What an OT!

Burning the midnight oil here trying to catch up on all the essays and comments made on c99 in the last day or so... I'm going to have to come back to this one! Too much to digest when one's eyes are getting tired.

Thanks, Zoe!

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