My name is Strollingone and I am a recovering stupid dupe.
Sometimes I can go for a whole day without a relapse, but I am always one lie away from becoming a dupe again. When I believe a lie, I usually get very angry and waste a lot of energy being concerned about it. Then, when I discover the lie, I get angry all over again for being lied to AND for believing another lie. That’s one reason I like websites like this one because so many people here can see the lies quicker than I can.
Sometimes the desire to lash out at all the stupid dupes around me for being stupid dupes is overwhelming, but that is worse than believing a lie. One can discover the truth and move on from the lie, but one can never heal the wounds from a lashing because the injured ones deny that they are stupid dupes. The scars can get so thick that they prevent the truth from getting through at all. Besides, most people are content with the way things are.
Very few people know that I am a stupid dupe because they are all stupid dupes, too, but don’t realize it. The ones that know that I am a stupid dupe are also recovering stupid dupes like me. We get together—usually by email or phone-- and hold Stupid Dupes Anonymous meetings. We point out recent lies to be avoided and share about the ones we fell for. I hope that you have found a Stupid Dupes Anonymous chapter near you.
It seems to me that the most that a recovering stupid dupe can do for a denying stupid dupe is to remember what it feels like and to continuously point out in small ways that the truth might be other than what they are being told. Lots of people are now aware that there is an agenda and that they are being played. They try to ignore it, but you can't ignore something unless you know that it is there. It seems like the most that can be done is to consistently point out what the agenda is and, when they ask, tell them who you think is writing the agenda and why. It’s pretty much one-on-one every chance you get. It’s a long, messy slog, but it is the only way to get there.