@Pricknick I agree that there is too much risk of further spread of the virus. The family member would also need to use some of the limited supply of N95 masks and other personal protective equipment (PPE). The already exhausted and overworked nursing staff would have to make sure they knew how to wear and remove the PPE properly. Then there would be the occasional person who, in the terrible stress of the moment, would remove the mask for one last kiss.

RNA viruses mutate rapidly. Some of the strains will be more dangerous than others. It is important to carefully isolate patients with the most dangerous strains so the epidemic will have a lower mortality rate as it continues and the virus adapts to infecting people. This is also the selfish reason we all need to try to help medical providers have adequate PPE.

A tablet with something like Facetime or Skype could be used to say goodbye although it is not the same. Maybe some sort of encryption can be used to provide privacy. I am also distressed that people are spending their last moments alone, but at least this way they could hear a loving voice saying goodbye.

Precaution is the name of the game when working with an unknown.
I look at this as a nurse.
Do I allow others (who I have no guarantee are virus free or immune) outside of the care team, enter a controlled area? No. Never.
I will protect the many including my patient who will be vulnerable to outside contamination.
As heartbreaking as it may seem, once a person is admitted to a quarantine area there have to be controls on exposure to all parties involved.
No exceptions.
Please pardon my bluntness.

@Bisbonian but, personally, I modify it a little.

I will go to a hospital if I think I have this virus. It will be reluctantly but I'll still go. Most of the cases here have been of the mild variety so there is always a possibility of failing to seek help for an infection that is otherwise survivable if properly supported. What I won't do is allow myself to be intubated. I've had doctor friends who say they would have a hard time allowing themselves to be intubated. If this virus has taken a person that far then there is a low probability that they will survive. It's less than a coin toss whether they will ever be able to breathe on their own again due to the debilitating effects of living on a ventilator or the virus does them in.

Anecdotally, there are several good reads on the subject by medical professionals. One, Meghan Kaiser, a trauma surgeon has stated in her writings that she will never allow herself to be intubated, again. She lost a leg and was in a coma on a ventilator for a lengthy period of time but somehow survived. Another is more recent. A nurse from Texas working in NYC wrote that over the past two weeks there have been no patients put on ventilators who survived. Ventilators are a short term solution only. This virus doesn't resolve quickly.

Regarding the janis' topic, I've already lost three people this year. One was a total surprise, 25 year old mother of a three year old who just dropped dead, one I knew was coming, my sister from CJD, and one that I thought would never survive the nearly two years he did. I wasn't able to be with any of them. I'm OK with that. Like others have said, say what you need to say every day. Don't wait or you may never get the chance. Been there, done that, but never again.

Only my sister was a possibility but the international restrictions would have prevented that too. We said our goodbyes in October when I visited her. Not actual goodbyes but we said everything that needed saying. Her cognitive state was already obviously deteriorated and I think we both knew we would never see each other again. She was mostly unresponsive the last month or so which means there was no possibility of repeating what was said in October. I'm alright with that and I think she would have been too.

Having this bug and being in the single hospital (a really wise decision IMHO) in Cuenca that is reserved and especially prepared for treating virus patients wouldn't be fun. My limited Spanish certainly would make it interesting. I still wouldn't want anybody exposed to me than absolutely had to be. I've heard they don't permit electronics, a very poor decision in my opinion, but I think that's a reasonable way to communicate.

There are sometimes that we have to think about more than just ourselves. I'd say it's all the time but that's me. I'm pretty sure this pandemic is a time that it is essential. A single person dying alone, even me, is a personal tragedy but infecting others or taking others with them is horribly selfish and just isn't right. I won't do it anyway.

You either come out in a body bag, or with debilitating injuries to internal organs, and a ravaged immune system. If I take my partner to the hospital, after spending the last month sleeping next to her, eating with her, talking to her, then I won't be far behind. Or vice versa. We've decided it's better to just stay home.